TOGETHER 4 EVER

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Marriage itself is consummated with the literal bodily union of husband and wife from that point on,the husband should regard the wife as his own flesh. If she hurts,he ought to feel the pain. If she has needs,he should embrace those needs as his own. He should seek to feel what she feels,desire what she desires and in effect, give her the same care and consideration he gives his own body.
    What should be my reaction when my spouse keeps repeating an act or behaviour i protect?
     Should i just keep mute and conceal my displeasure?No.
     Harbour no bitterness in your heart.
     What's the solution?
1. Recognize and admit you are different beings. Ever between we thought of married to each other,each one of us has a personal way of life. Embrace that truth,we need to be adaptable and adjustable, in the sense that just  as we feel upset about some behavior in our spouses, they also have same things that repel them in us. We are not perfect either. We must accept that our spouses are not intentionally doing things to spite us or make us frustrated,it might not be deliberated so just formats your mind and believe their way of life and attitude will change with time not with nagging. Breaking an old habit will take a while this step has a way of taking bitterness away from our hearts even if the desired change is not yet evident. It is not a "suffering and smiling therapy"
neither am i teaching you to pretend and be boiling silently. We all have our differences. He is not "you" you are not "him".
2. Talk less about the problem: One day, the holy spirit gave me a nudge and said "you talk too much about the problem rather than praying about it".discuss with the lord. In fact, i do report my husband to the holy spirit when he gets me upset. #Don't tell him o#. The heart of a king is in the hands of the lord ,God can speak too.