WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE
19, SEPTEMBER 2015.
1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjo
ying the attention, don’t marry her.
2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good
mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to
you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.
3.
My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where
did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they
worked every morning . . . that was our office.
4. My son, if I
tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket;
look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.
5. My son, if
you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary,
it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home
needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you
asking even when all has been spent.
6. My son, don’t ever beat
your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound
on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded
woman.
7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.
8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of
our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for
farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.
9. My son, under
the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and
restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was
to embrace each other.
10. My son, don’t be carried away when
you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that
never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that
stood by you all along.
11. My son, when I threw little stones or
whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out,
it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.
12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.
13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle with me before I bought
that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you
in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.
14. My
son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring
you too and has she ever compared you to any man?
15. My son,
there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to
have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two
equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.
16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her
father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I
didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.
17. My son, I
didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to
think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that
mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the
male-gender an ordinary tag.
18. My son, your mother have once
locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was
angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this,
so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your
mother.
19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural
beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their
appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo,
but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like
your women of nowadays.
20. My son, your mother and I are not
interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues
without always coming to us.
21. My son, remember I bought your
mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams
just as you’re pursuing yours.
22. My son, don’t stop taking
care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having
children to take care of you too.
23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.
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